In 2017, I attended The Best Of You Expo in London which was an awesome two day event, focused on personal and professional development.
We had the chance to network with coaches and speakers, learned how to use essential oils in yoga and discovered new ways to create a healthy relationship with food. It’s safe to say I was in my element surrounded with the best people, soaking up all the information and beaming with energy!
Although, one particular talk really stuck out for me and I continue to refer back to it from time to time to support my health journey.
I want to share this with you, as I feel it could help anyone who is suffering with anxiety, depression or emotional rollercoasters.
This talk was presented by a lady called Samantha Hearne who founded her company A Happy Mind. This talk called ‘Managing anxiety in your everyday life’ had a huge impact on me as I listened to her words of wisdom. She spoke about how we CAN change our mindsets and the importance of self development so we can thrive in life.
Since I can remember feelings of anxiety have come and gone. Anxiety about judgement, thoughts of the unknown future and constant listening to all the voices in my head. After a while I used to become so tired and stuck in a vicious cycle of 24/7 thinking, that eventually I would give up, leaving my head to feel totally blank.
It just left me feeling numb. Then the inevitable vicious circle of thoughts starts again, round and round. Can anyone relate?
This anxiety talk has really helped me through the years to break that cycle.
I truly hope this helps you too!
She first got us to think about what TRIGGERS our anxiety.
- Are you the emotional kind of person who wears their heart on their sleeve?
- Are you someone who never stops so physically exhausts themselves?
- or it is circumstantial like around times during work deadlines or corporate meetings?
This helps us find out who we truly are and to turn the situation around so we use it as our strength. We all go through our own lessons which shape our own unique lives, so surely we can embrace this!?
I’ve always found when acknowledging and gaining a better understandings on my personal challenges, it’s been easier to look at them from a different perspective.
Afterwards, she asked us to see the PATTERNS of our anxieties.
- Are they sporadic?
- or following some kind of trend?
For me, repetition has been one of the biggest challenges. The same thoughts over and over again. However after noticing this, I’ve become so much more aware of what’s happening in the moment, and feel I can now approach situations differently.
ANXIETY IS AN EMOTION NOT A LIFESTYLE
Worrying to a certain degree is great as it shows you care, that you have this ruthlessness to achieve your goals and you strive to make a difference! However anxiety is an emotion not a lifestyle.
I continue to encourage myself to implement little positive changes as often as I can so they become habits, to ultimately become friends and live along side anxiety when needed.
BECOME FRIENDS WITH ANXIETY
So here’s my 5 ways to handle anxiety, you can explore…
About an hour before bed I have a quick check in with myself. Within my chart table, I write down…
– the number of times anxiety was felt that day
– a number of how many of those I coped well with
– what I believe helped with my anxiety including healthy food, water, laughter, exercise and self-care.
This is a great way to notice patterns and see regular triggers to make consistent progress.
The unknown is such a scary place sometimes. I know there are times when I’m trying to control things that are totally out of my control or predicting the worst possible outcome. This is where little pep talks come in! Bringing yourself into the moment so you gain a realistic view of the situation.
Learning to become more present
When I start to feel even the slightest tickle of anxiousness I try to become more aware of what’s around me. Try concentrating on what’s happening around you and firing up the five senses. Focus on the facts. Feel the weather, notice how your feet feel on the ground, take notice of the number of people around you.
Changing your perception on situations
During times of feeling like there’s no way back, I try to reassure myself that this feeling cannot last forever. It literally can’t! You WILL come out the other side. Give it a go..
Writing a gratitude list
Every morning I write down and really feel 3 things I’m grateful for, so I can focus on what I do have rather than what I don’t. Being thankful out loud, really helps to pick up your mood too.
CHANGE YOUR BLOOD CHEMISTRY & feel BETTER IN 1 MINUTE
Lastly I want to share a little activity she did with us, that will instantly make you feel happy, put a big smile on your face and will even change your bodies chemical structure to a positive one! There may even be a few tears..embrace it!
- Right now think of someone in your life that you are really thankful for?
- Thought of someone? Ok..
- Next, think of a time that person did something for you that changed your life for the better?
- Got it?
- Now pick up your phone and message them thanking them for what they did for you and for being a part of your life…
I promise you this little message will not only instantly boost you with happy hormones, but you know the person on the other side will have a huge smile on their face too.
When we become more specific and increasingly outspoken about what we are grateful for, the stronger the emotions we can create.
I hope this has given you great insight into your mental health and feel there are some actionable steps you can take away, to move into the happy life you dream of.
Let me know, what can you start doing right away?
To health and happiness,